Our daughter in law is just opening her own veterinary hospital which will serve her specialty practice (theriogenology or veterinary reproductive medicine, primarily show dogs) as well as employing three other vets. Due to governmental bureaucratic harassment, the project is opening several months behind schedule but is finally over. Because of bungling by the bank that she chose to deal with, my wife and I ended up contributing a seven figure sum to the project. Without our contribution, instead of the hospital opening, there would be a bankruptcy sale to dispose of the property. Once open, this business will be hugely lucrative, insuring financial security for her, our son and young grandson as well as greatly improving her work environment . We chose to support this project because we are fortunate enough to be able to do so without without changing our lifestyle in retirement and our son is an only child so doing so was essentially just prepaying some of his inheritance. During construction, since I am retired and have time, I worked closely with the contractor to help things along when necessary. I would regularly get panicked calls for things like finding a structural engineer on one day's notice, finding a data cabling company to wire the building because the quote from the data system company didn't include that, or using a inside contact I have with one of the suppliers to avoid a further month's delay. Here's the issue that's bothering me, and admittedly it should be not big deal, but it keeps gnawing at me. There are sinks all over the building so the vets and techs can conveniently wash up after procedures, etc. In order to insure that these would be usable as soon as the facility opened, I ordered enough commercial towel dispensers to service all of them. Just before the place opened and I was getting ready to hang them, my DIL informed me that she didn't like what I had selected and would get something else. My DIL is a lovely person, but she's a my way or no way type and these kinds of issues have arisen in the past but again they weren't important enough to really bother me. But I can't get this out of my mind. I feel unappreciated and disrespected. I'm not going to confront her on it because it's not worth jeopardizing our relationship but I'd like some assurance that I'm not being totally neurotic.