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TomTurkey
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And it's a second marriage for both.

Posted: 08/06/2024 at 04:47 PM ET
(In response to this post by reestuart)

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wedding etiquette question....re: "destination" weddings...
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 03:32 PM ET
They want to get married where they are building their new life
99VT • 08/07/24 09:53 AM ET
^^^This^^^**
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:28 PM ET
well, I don't think they are "building a new life" there, per se...
JoesterVT • 08/07/24 10:17 AM ET
I think they should move the whole thing to Joester's back yard so as not>
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:40 PM ET
It’s the Bride’s and Groom’s wedding…their location choice.
GSOHokie01 • 08/07/24 12:37 AM ET
Joester, you sound like my wife
HokieAl • 08/06/24 11:22 PM ET
Work on some Fort Cavazos jokes
Hokie1992 • 08/07/24 07:19 AM ET
No more than ANY destination wedding is a dick move. People get married->
HOKIERIT • 08/06/24 08:46 PM ET
Not necessarily a dick move but more of a career move because he/they have
jdkhokie • 08/06/24 08:11 PM ET
The smart thing to do is follow your wife's lead**
MAHokie69 • 08/06/24 05:46 PM ET
Yep. If she insists on going, maybe try and find somewhere for the kids
reestuart • 08/07/24 08:15 AM ET
This could be the correct reply to half the posts on this board
North Main Hokie • 08/06/24 07:15 PM ET
But maybe we should do it there too**
MAHokie69 • 08/06/24 08:56 PM ET
Smart. Thing**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 06:37 PM ET
Bingo**
HwoodHokie • 08/06/24 05:49 PM ET
There is no place in Texas that would qualify as a “destination” wedding…
CrystalCoveHokie • 08/06/24 05:14 PM ET
The Alamo
MEHOKIE • 08/06/24 09:52 PM ET
My thoughts exactly..Unless you live in the city of the wedding, ALL ->
HOKIERIT • 08/06/24 08:52 PM ET
…or cost 3-4 grand to get to.**
BobG • 08/06/24 06:51 PM ET
Cheapest flights into Killeen are about a grand each....
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 07:12 PM ET
flights from DC or Richmond to Austin are max $250 each so more than
hokiehill1117 • 08/07/24 10:05 AM ET
well...
JoesterVT • 08/07/24 10:11 AM ET
Why can't you fly from Roanoke to Dallas?
MP4VT2004 • 08/06/24 11:54 PM ET
agree, it is a d**k move, i would opt out**
astrohokie • 08/06/24 04:58 PM ET
So your sisters ex-husband is getting remarried to someone not in your
coshokie • 08/06/24 04:52 PM ET
yeah- i'm not going for sure now **
bigbadbird • 08/06/24 04:58 PM ET
Wife's brother
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:53 PM ET
Whoa, Nelly! Send a $10 Hallmark card. **
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:59 PM ET
duh, its been a long day, let that one slip right by
coshokie • 08/06/24 04:55 PM ET
that muther?**
bigbadbird • 08/06/24 04:54 PM ET
POTT**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:59 PM ET
without knowing the circumstances fully, I think most generally expect
hokiehill1117 • 08/06/24 04:50 PM ET
how many people are you? i mean i agree- but how many do you have to
bigbadbird • 08/06/24 04:38 PM ET
Joester is large. He contains multitudes**
Beerman • 08/06/24 04:39 PM ET
he doesn't have to charter a plane- fly commercial maybe**
bigbadbird • 08/06/24 04:40 PM ET
Should I take my valet and the ladies maids?**
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:50 PM ET
If you had those you wouldn’t be complaining about the trip.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 05:09 PM ET
Candlesticks make a nice gift**
bigbadbird • 08/06/24 04:54 PM ET
Or regift**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 05:01 PM ET
Maybe because it's a second wedding/marriage they want it how *they* want
Brewing_Hokie • 08/06/24 04:36 PM ET
wedding where they live and his new job probably mean he's trying to take
reestuart • 08/06/24 04:32 PM ET
And it's a second marriage for both. ** ◄
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:47 PM ET
probably a feeling of "let's get this over with" **
reestuart • 08/06/24 04:51 PM ET
Admittedly, I have no idea. Communication is the problem to the answer.
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:56 PM ET
Also good points**
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:35 PM ET
Let your feet do your talking
EDGEMAN • 08/06/24 04:22 PM ET
No one has said this-
reconhokie • 08/06/24 04:19 PM ET
EXACTLY!**
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:32 PM ET
Good perspective...still doesn't feel right to me
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:33 PM ET
Just go and see yourself as making a significant, caring effort to show the
reconhokie • 08/06/24 06:12 PM ET
Second marriages should be small and intimate
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:04 PM ET
Don’t say that- you can’t project your beliefs onto someone else. It should
reconhokie • 08/06/24 04:23 PM ET
You are projecting your beliefs about you doing your wedding close by onto
NokieHokie • 08/06/24 04:38 PM ET
Well since it's their 2nd marriage, definitely not for life for those 2.
NokieHokie • 08/06/24 04:32 PM ET
Really? I have been HAPPILY married to my SECOND wife for 32+ years. Hope>
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:37 PM ET
Marriage can't "be for life" if it's the 2nd one. That can apply to the 1st**
NokieHokie • 08/07/24 07:47 PM ET
What?..Maybe it's the first one that can't be "for life". At least that>
HOKIERIT • 08/08/24 09:21 AM ET
Umm it was a joke. Calm down. I joked about the institution of marriage
NokieHokie • 08/08/24 09:25 AM ET
You just like to argue..trust me. I don't care**
HOKIERIT • 08/08/24 10:02 AM ET
It wasn't an argument. And if you don't care, then why did you respond?**
NokieHokie • 08/08/24 10:04 AM ET
That's ALL on me. I can't tell your unfunny jokes from your arguments**
HOKIERIT • 08/08/24 10:16 AM ET
Not surprising. It takes discernment and logic.**
NokieHokie • 08/08/24 10:20 AM ET
Yeah..right. That must be it**
HOKIERIT • 08/08/24 11:56 AM ET
Kinda like "lifetime season ticket location"... or not....**
RTFC • 08/08/24 12:45 AM ET
My opinion. Don't care, really.**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:26 PM ET
It's not your wedding.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 04:03 PM ET
I expect there will be some serious hard feelings...
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:17 PM ET
For planning a wedding where they live? LOL THe could have said, Hey we
UTPr0sim • 08/06/24 07:35 PM ET
If I was going to be offended that someone couldn't come visit me ...
Beerman • 08/06/24 04:46 PM ET
I expect you might be over analyzing how someone else might feel.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 04:29 PM ET
Don't think Big Sister can skip out without doing some damage
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:41 PM ET
Well, it's her brother. Flip a coin.**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 05:03 PM ET
If the family is that self-centered...
Beerman • 08/06/24 04:47 PM ET
So, there's precedent? 🤔🤦‍♂️🏳**
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 04:45 PM ET
Then suck it up and go and quit your *****in'.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 04:43 PM ET
How about doubling up / pitching in? Family members don’t need to stay at e
reconhokie • 08/06/24 04:25 PM ET
So he's getting married where he lives? That's not a "destination wedding"
Nova Hokie 95 • 08/06/24 03:54 PM ET
True. A "destination wedding" is one where they live in DC but the wedding
Tafkam Hokie • 08/06/24 03:58 PM ET
And most people are.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 04:04 PM ET
Especially for a 2nd wedding**
UTPr0sim • 08/06/24 07:34 PM ET
Second marriage? I'd send a best wishes bouquet and call it a day.**
UEMcGill • 08/06/24 03:51 PM ET
So you want them to come to you to get married b/c their wedding should be
RhinoVT • 08/06/24 03:42 PM ET
Sounds like......**
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:41 PM ET
Weddings are generally family events, right?
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:13 PM ET
Well, you just answered your own question. Live with any consequences**
HOKIERIT • 08/07/24 06:43 PM ET
Maybe they don't want you to go, so they are hoping you won't make the trip**
NokieHokie • 08/06/24 04:22 PM ET
Or don't really care. It's a second marriage. IDK
TomTurkey • 08/06/24 05:57 PM ET
That be some real genius there! 👏 lol**
ColoVT82 • 08/06/24 04:44 PM ET
I wish....that would make this so much easier...lol**
JoesterVT • 08/06/24 04:24 PM ET
Me being an introvert and not wanting a big wedding, I'd make a destination
NokieHokie • 08/06/24 04:31 PM ET
Lol, The ex and I had this exact conversation about not wanting every..
Brewing_Hokie • 08/06/24 04:39 PM ET
That's exactly what my wife and I did.
vthokieq • 08/06/24 04:47 PM ET
I dig it. Only thing we discussed was just throwing a party for extended
Brewing_Hokie • 08/06/24 05:24 PM ET
Yeah that's the way I want to do it. Small family and super close friends
NokieHokie • 08/06/24 06:06 PM ET
Yea. That is a new one. **
Stork • 08/06/24 03:50 PM ET
I don't think a destination wedding in-and-of-itself is a d**k move, but
Tafkam Hokie • 08/06/24 03:39 PM ET